But I've been out of any action for awhile since breaking up and jerking off by yourself gets kind of boring after awhile." I moved closer to him. "I've.I've never done anything serious with guys - I mean, me and a few buddies jerked off together a bit when we were younger, but we just did ourselves, never each other. I know it sounds kind of lame, but I was just scared, y'know?" He paused, then continued. I have been kinda considering trying it with you. "What I was going to say is that it's just that you caught me off guard. I don't hate you." I felt very relieved when he said that and managed to smile a little. I was out of place." He smiled and leaned over towards me. "I'm sorry, Chris, it's just-" he began, but I cut him off. Nothing serious - just whatever you'd feel okay with." He seemed to relax a bit. Anything I guess - I was just, like, wondering that's all.I mean, if there's anything I can do for you I'd like to help you out." "What.like, what did you have in mind?" I couldn't believe my ears! I turned to look at him again and he moved back from me slightly, still a little wary. I must have looked like a fool.Īfter a long silence, Justin let out a sigh. I was kicking myself for acting so stupidly. Had I just soured our friendship? He's probably pissed off at me - and he should be. I didn't mean.fuck, I'm sorry Justin." I stared straight ahead, not wanting to look at him. "I just thought.I could make you feel better, that's all. I'd never, ever been so bold with Justin before. ".like, have you ever wanted to, y'know - well, did you ever think about trying it with a guy?" There. I looked carefully at him, and our eyes locked. "Hey.it's okay," he said "It's not your fault. "I used to bring my girlfriend here before we broke up." The smile faded from his face and it suddenly made sense to me why Justin was acting so strangely: he had broken up with his girlfriend exactly two months ago. He cut the engine and we sat for a while in silence. It was quiet and the moon, hidden by some clouds, provided little light. "Yeah.I'm alright, I guess." We pulled into an empty parking lot by the railroad tracks beside the river. "You've just run five stop signs without even slowing down - are you okay?" "Hey! Justin!" I touched his thigh lightly as I said it. He was driving with only one hand, the other one hanging out the driver's window. Justin looked unusually preoccupied as he drove on through the night as he ran five stop signs without noticing. He pulled out onto the roadway and into the traffic. Still, though I'd often fantasized about doing it with Justin, I never thought I'd be propositioning him - and I never, ever thought he'd agree! It was a Friday night, and we were in Justin's car. He never made a big deal of it, to him I was just another guy, no different from anyone else. He was one of the first people I told when I came to college, and he took it pretty well - very well, actually, for a straight boy. We'd played volleyball together before and watching him jump around in those shorts very nearly gave me a heart attack, my heart was pounding every time we jostled for the ball and my cock swelled with lust every time we touched. I'd spent many nights jerking off thinking about this hot stud!! He had a trim waist and nice, nice legs. We were both studying at the same college with the same major, and I saw him in every one of my classes. With his long blond hair and green eyes, Justin was a drop-dead gorgeous friend of mine. In 1990, then editor of the US publication OutWeek justified his decision to out a gay millionaire on the cover of his magazine by pointing to the fact that “extramarital sex, abortion, drug and alcohol addiction, and embarrassing medical problems are often disclosed by a press eager to satisfy the voracious public appetite for gossip about the rich and famous” and that excluding homosexuality could create the impression “that homosexuality is, in effect, the worst thing in the world”.I hadn't intended to seduce just sort of happened. He also believed in exposing the supposed hypocrisy of public figures, who had the temerity to be gay while presenting themselves as traditional family men. Maupin argued outing would normalise homosexuality when society – and other gay people – realised that many wonderful people were comfortably, unashamedly, even fabulously gay.
And, as always happens when there is an ethical challenge to something people really want to do anyway, many excuses were generated as to why in this or that case it was justified. But even in its heyday, many people questioned whether it was ethical.
Since then the public attitude towards outing has crystallised against the practice.